What Can I Do?
Today and for the next 10 days :
- the house will be full of flowers
- the kitchen bench will have scores of condolence cards
- the fridge will be full of prepared meals
After these 2 weeks are done. That's when the heaviness really begins.
The funeral is done, everyone has displayed their immediate sorrow and quickly moved on to their regular day-to-day life.
The question remains "what can I do?"
In the following weeks and months, you need to become the person you promised you would be.
Now is the time to make sure you are remembered to the people left behind, the ones who will be grieving the loss for months and years to come.
Here's your checklist of what you can do after the funeral :
- Week 3
- make the call to 'check-in'
- Week 5
- call again and offer any assistance
- Week 8
- call again and arrange a morning/evening walk
- Week 11
- call again and see about a movie or a show
- Week 14
- call again and ask them around to dinner
Have you picked up a pattern?
The "real value" to the people left behind is knowing they are remembered.
Knowing that life goes on and they can be involved.
Sometimes asking "what can I do?" is impossible to answer for someone in grief. It could be they're having trouble thinking beyond getting a matching pair of shoes to go out.
What can you do? You can assist lead them back in to a routine and back in to the land of the living.
Asking the question will not help.
Take small steps and little actions.
This will help.
Every person is unique. Every family is different.
With us, every Funeral is Individual.
Contact Northern Beaches Funerals at any time :
-- 0455 285 041
-- info@northernbeachesfunerals.com.au